March 25, 2013 by nourishing buttons
Soon after having my first child these words kept popping into my head. I think they are a beautifully simple way of describing the legacy I want to give my children. I want to give them ‘roots’ – the security of a loving home, unconditional love, understanding and always being there (always as in forever, the relationship of parent and child never ends). And ‘wings’ – the self belief and confidence that they can achieve anything, that they are a special unique person, be interested in them, truly interested by asking questions about their hopes and dreams. In doing this I hope to build their self esteem, one of the most important things I can do for my children which I hope will stand them in good stead for their futures.
My children, all children, are beautiful unique souls who deserve to be nurtured. I chose to have them, and therefore choose to do the best job I can in raising happy, confident and content people. They have their own needs and I will not force them to fit in with mine. The Button family is a democracy with parental guidance. I had always wanted children, that internal biological force that inhabits us humans and ensures the continuation of the species. But I hadn’t looked beyond birth, being anxiously fixated on it (see post The Beginning to see where that mindset got me!) Now I am a parent I am consciously choosing to doing my very best for my children.
I totally underestimated the importance of the job of parenting before becoming a parent. Mistakes made in childhood follow through into adulthood and leave issues to be resolved to lead a happy life, and if left unresolved can lead to an unhappy life.
An oath to my children……’I will do my best to give you roots & wings and will always give you unconditional love, love Mummy xxx’